The Victims of Matthew Good Facebook Group was created on January 3, 2021, by a Facebook user account named Kim M (Primary Admin of the Facebook group.)
I want to note here, to this day I do not know who Kim M is, although I am quite sure it is a false name and a fake user account as that was what I was told by multiple people. Please read the post about Kim M to further understand the mystery of who is Kim M.
There is also reportedly a second hidden group possibly called Triggered Masses and a group chat that Hayley notes in her comments below. A supporter named Kelly sells stickers by donation with the Triggered Masses logo on it.
On January 30th, 2021 – Kim M posted she was opening the group to anyone because she wanted everything exposed!
Hayley made her Instagram statement February 3, 2021
Then on February 11, 2021 Global News Chris Jancelewicz posted the “news” Matthew Good dropped by music label following accusations by ex-girlfriend and several others copied.
I saw this news story, and that was the first I had heard of the accusations. Silly me, late to the party. You can see my post about my reaction here: 2021 Feb 11 – Response to the News.
Hayley M joined VOMG Facebook group on February 16th, 2021.
Just days after the news story broke in February, I messaged briefly with Hayley M.
Feb 21 2021 I requested to Join the Facebook group – but I was denied. Yes, the group was private at that time, because after Kim let everyone in on January 30th, it looks like shit hit the fan. So I had to answer some questions but because I had supported Matthew publicly I was denied.
After messaging with Hayley M on March 12, 2021 she told me some really outrageous claims about what Matthew Good had done to others, she gave me email contracts for ET Canada, and I again requested to join the FB group.
This time Erin (she was a co-Admin of the group at this point) accepted me in.
On March 15, 2021 Erin asked for help running the group. Several women, including myself were made Moderators. So after 2 days in there, they trusted me enough to make me a moderator.
NOT A VICTIM
I shared quite a bit of my history, all the while repeatedly noting I am not a victim, and Matthew Good was never physically abusive to me, never aggressive physically and never did I feel I HAD to do something or fear the consequence.
I was quite clear that I thought what he did, by basically harvesting his fan base for sex, was a perverted and shitty thing to do. He used his fan base for sex, finding willing female fans to fulfill his sexual desires. I still think it is rather pathetic but hey he wasn’t the first nor last to person to use fame for easy sexual encounters. He now knows I think that, I was direct with him about my opinion, once we spoke in April 2021.
I also always asked for other women in the group to share with me their experiences, because I understand even though I didn’t experience something physically abusive – that didn’t mean it wasn’t possible that he could have been abusive to other women.
A few messaged me and talked to me privately away from the group. Because they didn’t want to post items in the group. A few women made comments on my posts that mentioned events or things that happened between them and Matt Good. None of the women I talked to were “abused” physically or sexually, they merely regretted believing that they were special, and regretted some of the sexual things he asked them to do.
A few times Hayley M made comments on my posts about her experience, but the comments were not about abuse – I never fully got her story, it was not posted in that group while I was there.
Hayley NEVER spoke to me directly about her relationship with Matt Good. In fact she was very cold to me after I joined the group and began posting.
She went from “Hey girl” to “You’re Evil” in a month.
These images below are a snippet of a comment thread on my post dated March 23, 2021 in the group. You can see my comments. I am not hiding them.
If Hayley had “sobbed her eyes out after one encounter” why did she continue?
If she told him prior to March 2020 that she “hated doing this porn shit” why did she ask the man to marry her in September 2020? Did he stop doing the porn shit between those months?
I know Hayley doesn’t think she needs to answer those things, she thinks me or anyone asking questions means we are being entitled – but nope – Hayley put out a vague statement full of holes.
Hayley is obligated to fill those holes if she wants her story to hold water.
Now keep in mind – I met Matt in 1998. Mine was a long story as you have read on this site – so there were a lot of posts with back up photos of emails and text messages – BUT I only scratched the surface of what I could have shared, while in that Facebook Group.
A Horse Named Trigger
By the end of March 2021, Hayley M began to become “triggered” by everything, specially by me, because I had had a few text conversations about her with Matt during 2020 up to November of that year.
Nothing Matthew Good ever said about Hayley M, to me, was bad, just that they weren’t going to work out. He didn’t say awful things about her at all, just that the distance between them, him in BC and her in Ontario, and their kids, made it impossible for a future.
He also questioned if any woman ever truly loved him. Not the rockstar tile, but the real him. But Hayley found it all “triggering” and upsetting.
Hayley was clearly fluctuating between rage and fragile in her comments by this point in April. Unstable commenting and deleting of her posts and her comments. Something she continued to do on Instagram. Meanwhile she had her fans attempting to shut down YouTuber Aaron Richmond.
APRIL 11, 2021: The Bomb is Ticking
Then, on April 11th, 2021 – I discovered that Erin had left the group a few days earlier.
When I checked the statuses, I noted I was the only one left as Moderator too.
All the other women had removed their moderator powers at some point prior. Sorta strange. So my curious nature kicked in. I started questioning – a lot.
In the month I had been there, Kim M had never posted or been active. So I messaged Erin to ask what happened. She claimed that aside from the minor stress of her husband not liking the attention this was bringing them, Erin had had a disagreement with Hayley.
No details, just a disagreement.
So I asked Erin who Kim is. She said she didn’t know Kim’s real identity but that the account hadn’t been active for awhile.
And then I posted in the group, noting the massive problem.
You see as a Moderator I could NOT add another moderator. I could NOT do things an Admin could and you can look up what powers each have: What is the difference between Admin and Moderator.
The women didn’t understand that!
I asked the group if anyone knew The Admin and Creator of the group Kim.
At that point I was told, the Admin user account Kim M had been hacked and no one knew who actually was in control of the Admin account.
HACKED!
APRIL 12, 2021: Seriously WTF?!
I found that all alarming.
No one else seemed to give a shit.
A “safe place” to share your “rape” or “abuse” or “coercion” – whatever they wanted to label their victim stories – and the Admin account is supposedly under the control of someone unknown due to it being “hacked” – and no one in the group cared!
That didn’t make a lick of sense to me.
Let that sink in. No one was bothered by the Admin account being “hacked” by someone unknown to them. No one batted an eye.
At that point I suggested the group should be closed.
Hayley M agreed. Both in the group (see image above) and personally to me in messages (see images below.)
As you can see at 11:21 PM PST I posted an announcement that I would remove things that I had personally posted (which I did remove immediately that night) and that others should remove their posts too and that I would delete everything and everyone by Friday (April 16) if they agreed.
Also I removed a few other posts that I deemed insignificant (scroll below for further info) which totally wigged them out in the days after. I suppose I could have waited – but I thought if indeed the account had been hacked – why would these women want to be there?
I should have remembered the post from January 30th by Kim!
They wanted this exposed.
APRIL 13, 2021: The Kaboom
With the next hours of the middle of the night Hayley M does a 180.
Hayley says she will contact Kim M and not to delete the site.
Now you have to remember this is about 1:30 am PST for me here in British Columbia and 4:30 am for Hayley M out in Toronto Ontario area.
And she was able to immediately contact this Kim M (that claimed to be a teacher with two small kids) on a work/school night in those wee hours of the morning – this was all very odd to me.
But I had a day job and a life, so I went to bed, at 1:30 am (PST) / 4:30 am for Hayley out in Ontario.
Hayley continued to message me while I was sleeping.
Then when I woke up the next day to go to work, I found a bunch of accusations from Hayley in my messages. One message from the Kim M account too.
Apparently, Kim magically was able to get the account back in her control.
After 2 months of not having control of it, because it was allegedly HACKED, suddenly in a few hours, in the middle of the night (or early wee hours of the morning depending on your time zone – see message from Hayley to me at 6 am PST) it was fixed!
From there, these victims women continued to attack me, inside the group. Calling me a litany of libellous things. Of course, I was banned from the group and unable to respond to any of the lies about me in there. But I could respond on Twitter.
So, how do I know?
My friends were still in the group. Yes out of the 103 members, several were just supporters and some are my actual friends. They took a lot of the screenshots and showed me posts where my character was being attacked, and what happened was being skewed to look like I was somehow a spy for Matthew Good and his 2nd ex-wife Raeleigh.
I have never met nor spoken with Rae, ever. Even to this date. Everything I know about her, is because of being around when Matt met her, and being around after Matt divorced her and from her very public life on social media.
At that time, April 12th 2021 – I had not spoken to Matt since November 2020.
Then Kim and Hayley accused Raeleigh of being the one that ‘hacked’ Kim’s account.
Please note that because it is important in the ongoing narrative. Because later, various characters claim to be PROTECTING Rae. So which is it?
Was Rae on their side or Matt’s? They flip flop stories so much.
I highly doubt that accusation for so many reasons, Raeleigh would have no reason to attempt to gain control of that Kim Facebook account. Her time is well spent being mom, and running a super successful business. It’s stunning that they believe Raeleigh is a master hacker of Facebook user passwords.
Yet it lends to the insanity, when later on a user named Sherri on Twitter claimed these women of the FB group were actually “protecting” Raeleigh from Matt.
So you have to ask – Is Rae on their side or their enemy? It changed constantly. So bizarre. But I am the evil one apparently. For questioning the sanity of this whole thing.
HAYLEY’S QUESTIONS TO ME
In any case, I was asked to explain why I deleted what I deleted.
None was “recoverable” as Kim could only see the Activity Log of what I did.
So, because they knew my Twitter account, they sent me a screenshot of a piece of that Activity Log – pictured below -asking why I deleted these posts.
I did answer – publicly on Twitter.
Remember, the time difference, these posts were removed at between 1 am and 1:30 a.m. PST before I went to bed. Hayley is in Ontario, thus the 3hr time difference.
I have PDFs and screenshots of everything.
I removed everything I had personally posted. Not that I cared – anyone could have taken screenshots prior and I am sharing it all here anyway. I just felt best to delete it there – maybe it was the idea, that if I didn’t remove my posts and I was banned that my content would no longer be under my control. And anyone could try to show it in a false light.
Which “Sherri” on Twitter did exactly try to do just days after I was banned.
Yes, I unblocked a few people that had been blocked – but that did NOT invite them back, that is not how that works – the unblocked people would have to send a request to rejoin for membership to get back in! Which would be denied. If they bothered to look at the members list they would have seen none of them on it.
Another a lie to make me look “fishy” according to the triggered Hayley. I didn’t bring them back in. Just removed them completely – as the goal was to have zero members left in there.
Hayley M also posted a long letter to me – in the group – a letter which my “flying monkeys” as she called them, could forward to me. I also addressed that on Twitter account. I have created separate post called Response to Hayley’s Letter that addresses that letter – in full.
(She uses that term “flying monkeys” because it is a term used for people being controlled by a narcissistic personality. What I find laughable is the fact that her group of “victims” and supporters willingly run around social media websites defending her and attacking anyone that isn’t supporting Hayley. Who is the narcissistic person here – who are the flying monkeys? Food for thought.)
Also instead of privately messaging a letter to me – Hayley posted it in the group. A group she banned me from and I was no longer a member in. Why?
Because it further propped up her new narrative about me and it gave the women negative ideas about me, left to fester in their heads, and they would not SEE my response unless they bothered to seek it out.
It was a very controlling manipulative move on Hayley’s part.
The posts I removed included the following:
A post accusing Rod B (Matt’s friend and another musician) of being as bad as Matt. I guess a woman sending “any variety of suggestive content” to a man is totally innocent – but men looking at it or sharing it, are evil.
A post accusing Todd Hancock (a local Vancouver radio personality and podcast host) of being morally corrupt for – yes I am serious – Twitter promoting a years old podcast show with Matt. Which was not in anyway to do with the current events of the time.
The ladies were just grasping at any mention of MG.
I deleted a post about Matt Good’s Twitter Posting which had the insurance line, and he was mocked.
Posts about changing Rules or Changes to the group like this one below – which is hilarious given the comment about “either this is a safe space or it isn’t“ – clearly it wasn’t.
How can a Facebook group for sharing stories of alleged abuse be safe when the ADMIN ACCOUNT IS ALLEGEDLY HACKED?
Also note this is where Kim notes her profession and kid status.
Note that Raina on Feb 15th, 2021, is complaining that the January 30th move by Kim to LET ANYONE COME IN THE GROUP – there by making it PUBLIC, was frowned on.
A post with some words written by the late Rich Priske (former Matthew Good Band bass player) where he wanted money for a reunion tour – slanting the dead man’s words to make Matt look bad. Which I found to be in really bad form. I mean really – talk about grasping at anything here to make Matthew look bad.
What did this post have to do with alleged victims?
The use of the word GROOMING was a couple of post thread topics too, lots of arguing over that one, from which it was clear, a few people that had been in the group were kicked out for questioning ANYTHING – even the use of this word and its meaning.
I also deleted any of the MEME type inspirational Quote posts.
There was a post or two about different various fans that defended Matt, and I removed those posts that night too.
The accusations that I was removing “important things” is bullshit, unless MY content was important to them.
There in fact was very little “testimony” on there from other women. The group appeared to have been cleared out prior to me joining on March 12, 2021.
For people like this Sarah (image below), to accuse me of making her uncomfortable is strange, because I have copies of my posts and the comments that were made on them and no one complained about me or what I was saying until one post – that triggered Hayley because it showed I had talked to Matthew about her.
In fact, usually the comments were very grateful for my share. In fact, they posted comments about how familiar it was for them and their experiences.
I did not remove anyone’s victim testimony. There was none.
A New Target Found
It looked like they had had a lot of issues prior to it becoming The Barbara Show – I have to laugh as that is pretty hilarious. (I almost named this website The Barbara Show just because! In fact I bought the URL!) I had removed Hailey W because she had me blocked and the whole point was to have zero members.
In the end I found it all pretty amusing, as I had no qualms about calling Matthew Good a pervert, a sex addict, a dick head, a pig, a piece of shit, a self-centred douchebag that clearly only cared about his dick. Yet they believed I was a spy for him?
My comments were pretty clear, that there were times in the last two and half decades where Matt and I really didn’t get along. We were both shitty to one another.
But I always forgave him, and he always forgave me.
As much as I call him horrible names when he is acting horrible, I ALSO know the other side of him, the one that seems passionate about a lot of things in this life. Like his kids, his family, history, music, soccer, and specially politics. For all the negative, there is a lot of positive about that fucker.
I have said all these things to him in person even.
I am a mean bitch that doesn’t pull punches when I have an opinion. Sometimes it makes little girls like Jay P. cry. My “difficult” nature makes people call me crazy, the appearance that I lack filters and say things most wouldn’t dare, well that leads people to either love me or loathe me. Sometimes both at once. I don’t give a shit. I feel what I feel and I say what I say, as that, to me, is real.
When I am wrong I say so too. I am humble enough to admit my faults and say sorry.
Not a Victim
To be clear, as my screenshots of my posts show, I never said I was victim.
I made it clear, every time to say I was not. That I was trying to be a supporter to the women in the group, but apparently because I didn’t automatically join their hater club, I was branded as all sorts of things.
Also, in the entire month I was in the group – only once, near the end did anyone suggest they were uncomfortable about what I posted. So it is pretty telling that after all this, they all immediately start assuming the worst of me and attacking me.
The accusations that I was there on Matthew’s behalf are 100% false.
The last text MG and I had exchanged were in November 2020. So while I was in the group I had zero contact with Matthew Good or his ex-wives.
After I posted my replies to Hayley M on Twitter, in mid-April 2021, after this all went down, Matthew Good did finally reach out to me to tell me his side.
When he phoned me, and I picked up, I said, “You sure know how to pick em.”
And he laughed, hard.
Yet The Victims had found another target to attack. Me.
Lynch Mobs
They had a battle with another IG woman (Hayley called the police on her), and April D (they continually posted libel against her too), and Aaron Richmond who has a YouTube channel – he told me he was informed that, in their secret chat these women planned to do something to his dogs, and were using maps to find out where he walked them!
And really they attacked ANYONE that questioned anything these women claimed, or more pointedly if you dared to question Hayley M.
Because let’s face it. None of these “victims” are out there in public yelling their truth. No one really put their name out there. Erin told her story a bunch of times, and it is on other sites. Same for Raina. But not many others came forward.
These women claim fear! They claim they worry they will not be believed. They fear losing their spouses, or reputations. All understandable… because groupies are looked down on.
But if an actual crime or abuse occurred, it has not been taken to the law. A vague accusation or 3 has been splashed around social media – to kill the man’s livelihood. When reality is this was a group of women that fucked a rockstar and regretted it – for one reason or another! He was a dick to them sure, but not a rapist, not a sexual abuser. Nothing to me added up from what I had seen and been told to that point.
PitchForked
Of course, after I was booted out on April 13, 2021 everything I did was called into question.
As I explained on my Twitter (the Twitter history was deleted May 2021 due to their harassment of me) I still have the same Gmail account that I started in 2005. I don’t have anything to hide, and never delete important things in my private email. So I have history in my email going back to 2005. I don’t think that is a ‘crazy’ thing.
Being someone that keeps a calendar of everything, and have done so since I was a teen – I can tell you a lot of things about my past, as I have the records. It is my personality type, and as a writer all my life of journals it is just something I have to look back at.
In any case, the group went on to accuse me of bragging and making it The Barbara Show, and calling me all sorts of things including “crazy”, “racist”, and “transphobic” to name just a few.
I attempted to defend myself on my Twitter but eventually tired of being stalked by them on my Twitter and my public social media accounts. One woman against a gaggle of angry vengeful women, with seemingly endless time to post on social media, was too much for me to keep up with.
On April 20, 2021 a brand new Twitter user account “Sherri” claiming to be one of the two Admins of the Facebook Group (It was only Hayley M and Kim M at that time as the Admins, so you decide who it was!) popped up accusing me of all sorts of stuff and the worst of it – accused Matthew Good of raping her.
At that point Matthew and I were talking on the phone, and we discussed just how far to let this go. The insanity of this all had reached epic proportions!
On May 4, 2021 – I deleted my public Twitter account that I had had since 2008.
Hayley wanted to silence me – too.
I gave her the illusion she had.
Updated September 23,2023 – Originally Uploaded January 4, 2022